Simply Changing Your Mind: A Simple Life Project

Simply Changing Your Mind: A Simple Life Project

So when I first set out on this 125 journey to live a simple life with this project that started on September 6 I was quite ambitious. I was going to write a blog post every day for 125 days dedicated to this simple life project. But guess what? Life happened. And I I have been having incredible opportunities to actually interact with life with my simple life mindset day in and day out. So, I decided to change my mind. Change the nature of my commitment to this project and just blog a couple times each week. Maybe only once a week. And you know, it's good. It's healthy to be able to just simply change your mind. Because life is NOT a one way street. We get to choose and change as a part of harmonizing with this human experience we are having along the way.

Now, let us not undervalue the virtue of reliability. I am all about being where I say I will be and showing up and following through on my promises. I think we can take it too far sometimes. It's important to stay fluid and change direction when needed.

I decided to let myself off the hook because I've had a tendency to be overly committed and overly reliable. I've no intention of suddenly letting down my clients, friends and family but I'm also tuning in each morning to what my inner-self wants and needs and allowing this to guide me. And this practice is actually allowing more time, energy and space in my daily life to be of service to others. Strange how that works.

So, maybe today you can let yourself off the reliability hook and tune in. Give yourself permission to simply change your mind. After all, isn't a woman's prerogative? ; )

 

 

 

What does boring mean anyway? A Simple Life Project

What does boring mean anyway? A Simple Life Project

 

I honestly can not remember what boredom feels like. When I hear people say they are bored it's such a bizarre concept to me. Can't comprehend. What does it mean to be bored? Is it restlessness? Is it discontent? Is it an addiction to stimulation (caffeine, visual images, talking, doing)? Deciding to lead a simple life is all about shifting the mental paradigm from constant movement and stimulation to just easing into what is with acceptance and surrender.

Just BE-ING where you are and diving deep into the sounds, sights, sensations of your present moment is living in fullness. There is no such thing as boredom in that place! A simple life is about feeling  FULL in the beauty of simplicity rather than chasing constant stimulation.

This week I am staying at a house right on the beach of the Pacific Ocean with my dear husband, my nearly 17 year old daughter, her bestie and our wonderful friends Josh and Beth. We have embraced the simple life by cooking together, watching the lightening storms while listening to Ray LaMontagne's album Ouroboros. A simple life here means riding the waves on boogie boards and going for long walks on the beach watching the pelicans fly in formation and the gathering of sea gulls on the sand. It's about collecting sea shells and thinking of which of my child clients will enjoy using these shells in the sand tray in my office when I return. It's about seeing my teenage daughter and her friend have the time of their lives jumping waves with squeals.

Boredom is not something we experience  once we embrace a simple life. With acceptance and celebration of what is right here right now, there is no such thing as feeling bored. All of life is a celebration with an embrace of a simple life. This is the essence of mindfulness. Being with what is. Accepting. Surrendering. Celebrating. Appreciating.

Simple Mornings: A Simple Life Project

Simple Mornings: A Simple Life Project

a simple life My simple morning practice is a set of healthy habits I've established and I'd like to share it with you.

You see, how we start our day has everything to do with how we interact with what life may throw us.

It's important to be intentional and creating simple rituals for your morning can make all the difference.

I've listed below some suggestions based on my own simple morning routine.

A simple life with self care focus doesn't just happen.  A simple life and self care must be cultivated and it starts with the dawn of each new day.

  1. Let your morning begin with the night before. Create a healthy and effective sleep hygieneIf you haven't yet grabbed my free Sleep Tight Guide go get it now! It's SO important to get a good night's rest in order of have a purposeful morning experience.
  2. Get up early. It's important to have plenty of time to move through your morning with ease. Set a gentle alarm to go off. I use a soft chime on my phone.
  3. Take time for some gentle yoga. It might be just stretching and breathing in your bed or you might want to have a dedicated standing practice. Here is a short video to a brief yoga practice that is a simple 4 minute flow I created for women over 40. Yep, that's me demonstrating for you!
  4. Drink a big glass of water. If you like, add a squeeze of lemon juice for a little detox action. Hydrating and starting the day with a glass of water BEFORE you get to the next one is key.
  5. Brew a simple cup of organic coffee or organic tea. Mindfully sip, taking the aroma, the warmth of the mug, the sensation of the steam rising up to your face.
  6. Connect with nature. If you have an outdoor space, early morning is a wonderful time to soak up the crisp morning air, listen to the birds or gaze at the sunrise. If weather doesn't permit, sit by a window and as you sip on your mug of hot coffee or tea, take time to see what you can see in the sky or the tree tops. Maybe go for a walk and keep your head up and notice what you see along the way.
  7. Practice mindfulness in the bath or shower. Move slowly as you bathe your body feeling the sensation of the water on your skin, the scent of your shampoo, the sound of the water.  As you dry your body, take time to gently pat each area of your body with a towel feeling grateful for the body you are in and how it's carried you this far in life.

I've discovered that committing to simple practices leads to a simple life is all about slowing down.

For so many years we moved so fast, rushing about in the morning to get the kids to school and to get to work that the day would fly by in a frenzy and it often felt life was a race resulting in exhaustion and often anxiety.

Starting the day with mindful intention and a slow pace sets the tone for a much more peaceful life experience every day.

Simply Listening: A Simple Life Project

Simply Listening: A Simple Life Project

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On September 6, 2016 I was returning from a magically simple and satisfying long weekend on a beautiful mountain lake with my amazing family.  I decided that I would return home to a focus of creating a simple life in order to bring back with me that sense of peace and connectedness I felt while at the lake. And one thing I noticed not only that weekend but also in my work as a psychotherapist and mentor for others is that people just want to be heard. Really heard. But not only do people want to be heard but I believe Nature itself - nature that is all around us and within us - also wants to be heard. The practice of simply listening is the key to noticing and receiving more deeply the magical messages we otherwise miss in the busy-ness of our lives.

  1. Slow down. Stop moving constantly. Stillness is rather important to being able to really hear, to attend with intention.
  2. Listen for content without analysis. You can analyze later. Right now just take it in.
  3. Seek to understand. Instead of jumping to rebuttal or problem solving mode, simply listen for what the other person is showing you or what Nature is demonstrating.
  4. Appreciate what you hear or observe. You need not like it or agree with it but you can appreciate it.

This morning my husband and I sat out on our front porch as the sun came up and we noticed a large spider had built an expansive web between the two porch columns and was busily consuming her breakfast of a rather large insect. I know a lot of people who would have rushed to get the broom and taken down that web, spider and all. As much as I admit that I'm not particularly a fan of arachnids I have a deep and abiding respect for Nature and I have cultivated an ability to slow down and listen to the messages it may have for me. As we watched the spider doing her thing, I appreciated the meticulous work and the art of this web-spinning in order to get what she needs to live another day.

There is something tremendously rich about intentionally living a simple life rather than the complex, confusing, crazed rat-races we otherwise may find ourselves lost in. Slowing down and simply listening to what others are saying and showing us, pausing to really pay attention to what Nature has to demonstrate. . . yields treasures otherwise overlooked.

Simple Home Organization: A Simple Life Project

Simple Home Organization: A Simple Life Project

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I am not naturally an organized person but I LOVE being organized. I love having my home in order. It lends to a sense of peace and ease. The fact that this does not come easily or naturally for me makes me the ideal person to share with you what I have learned about creating simple home organization. Here are some tips I have discovered:

  1. Clear out clutter. We've covered this in a couple of previous articles but it can't be emphasized enough if we are seeking a home that is simply in order. Block off a few hours, grab some boxes and/or large garbage bags and do a massive sweep. Collect all the paper and items that can be recycled, donated, sold or thrown away. Clear it out!
  2. Function then style and sentiment. It's important that 95% of the items in your home have a function that you actually use and need. 5% of the items can be purely for decoration or sentiment. For example, you might have a couple of awesome fat candles flanking your dining room sideboard that look super stylish but you also might light those candles for ambience during special dinners.
  3. Be selective with sentiment. Too many baby photos or too many art projects you saved from when your kids were little can end up cluttering your home environment. Select one or two special items per child for display. If you can't part with the others, at least pack them away in the attic.
  4. Daily sweep. Every morning and every evening make a quick run through the house looking for papers, mail or other items that can be either tossed of filed.
  5. A home for for everything. When you take your earrings off at the end of the day, put them in the jewelry box. Kicking your shoes off at the door? Set up a shoe cubby. Dishes should either be in the cabinet or in the dishwasher.

These are just a few of the tips I've discovered work for me since we recently moved into the house we are living in. The key to simple home organization is ongoing effort to release what you don't need and be conscious about how you interact with the items in your home so you don't get lost in the stuff and stacks!

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Simple Meditation: A Simple Life Project

Simple Meditation: A Simple Life Project

simple meditationSimple meditation is nothing more than the process of sitting with a willingness to just breathe and focus on the present moment. When I first started my personal meditation practice in 1991, meditation wasn't nearly as widely known and practiced as it is today. After 20+ years of practicing and 15+ years of teaching and leading others I have seen how popular meditation and yoga have become - to the point it's all gotten kind of complicated. Lately I have been feeling led to return to the most simple form of meditation as I introduce clients and new students to the practice.

Some people who have never experienced this simple practice might wonder, "What's the point? Why meditate?"

Fortunately, recent scientific studies have proven that basic mindfulness meditation over 8 weeks of steady practice changes the brain in amazing ways. The list of benefits and reasons to meditate is long. But the over-arching reason to meditate is to find harmony within oneself. Harmony with emotions and thoughts. A greater sense of acceptance. And from there meditation practice regularly helps us to harmonize with others, with the circumstances of life. simple meditation

Simple meditation requires very little except a time commitment of 20 minutes/day, a comfortable, quiet place to sit upright and maybe a timer when you're first starting out. With a comfortable, upright seated position simply close your eyes and accept the sounds you may hear around you. Bring your mind's awareness to sensations in your body and try to relax and allow your body to sink into your seat. Then, focus on the sensation of breath naturally coming into the body and leaving the body. You can expect the first 10-12 minutes to sometimes feel a little uneasy but stick with it knowing that taking this time for simple meditation is like feathering a nest internally that will eventually be a very soft and easy home within your mind and heart that you can drop into.

 

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